I Want Your Sex

Posted by simpleysterling on Mar 24, 2010 | 1 comment

It is so hard to raise kids with good moral standards and self-control in a sexually-oriented world.  Who am I kidding here? It is hard to be an adult in a world where the focus on television, in the movies, in our magazines and even in our music is so clearly sexual.  As the single parent of two teenage daughters and one practically teenage son, the issues of sex and sexuality come up in our home…. they come up a lot. 

As a parent, especially as a Christian parent, it is important to give our children a healthy outlook on life, and their sexuality makes up a good portion of the lens through which they view the world.  Rose-colored lens are great, but not practical, and nobody wants to try and see the world through soot-soaked blackened lenses.  In my home, practicality rules, and my kids know tha they can ask me anything – ANYTHING – and I will answer them.  And so, one sunny summer day not quite two years ago came THE question, “Mom, why does God want us to be virgins when we get married?  I don’t get it. You waited, and you got divorced.  So what’s the point?”  Yikes! A question AND a critique… Yet without even thinking about it, this is the answer I gave her: 

When God tells us that He wants us to save sex for marriage, He is telling us this to protect our bodies and also to protect our hearts.  He is protecting our bodies from disease and from making those comparisons between former lovers – that can be very hurtful to all of us, wondering if we “measure up”, wondering if the person we are with is really focused on us and whether or not they are disappointed in us physically.

And that leads into the most important part – He is protecting our hearts, the very core of our being, from all of the hurt and emotional distress that comes from going from partner to partner.  Every time you are with someone in a physical way, you are giving that other person a piece of your heart, whether you intend to or not. Everyone can specifically remember details of every person they have been with: what they did together, what they liked, what they didn’t, and how they felt. When you are with someone in a physical way, you unite your bodies and become as close to another human being as you are ever allowed to be, and that moves you, not only evoking a physical response, but an emotional and spiritual one as well.

So if you give a piece of you heart away each and every time you are with someone in a physical manner, you lose a piece of yourself each time. And when you just keep handing out those pieces, what you have left inside you continues to get smaller, and smaller, and smaller, and smaller – until you eventually have nothing left at all to give. Then when that perfect someone, that wonderful, fabulous, spectacular someone that God has intended JUST FOR YOU finally comes along – well, you won’t even be able to recognize them, because you will have no heart left. And then, the very best thing that you could have been a part of in your life just walks away, because you didn’t recognize that person who was the very gift of God to you. Why? Because you took your sexuality, that intimate part of you that is so very special, and you mistreated it, and just gave it away to whomever came along.

And that, my friends, is why God wants your sex; not to keep you pure unto Him, but to keep that one thing that specifically belongs to you alone sacred.

Catch you on the flip side,

Ang

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